On reclaiming main character energy in motherhood
It's an ongoing *practice*– but if you’ve been feeling off, stuck, or you just need to prioritize more of your OWN joy, I'm sharing what's helped me–and I hope it can help you too!
Good morning and happy Sunday!
How’s your weekend going? The weather was a little chilly here all weekend but can I tell you how much more alive I feel now that it’s SPRING!? 😭♥️
Today I wanted to talk about something I feel really passionate about and also a topic that frequently comes up in my DMs: finding your main character energy again.
If motherhood (or any big life change—or just, you know, growing up–even if you DON’T have kids!) has turned you a little upside down, you’re definitely not alone.
In fact–I think this is one of the most universal experiences among women!
(HELLO! Welcome! You may not have realized what a large club you joined, but we’re all in this with you! 😂)
Because when your plate is full and you’re constantly overwhelmed by everyone else’s needs, it’s really easy to forget that you are the main character in your own life.
In many ways, motherhood has sharpened my sense of self. It’s made what matters (and what doesn’t) so much clearer. It’s been fun, rewarding, and made life feel deeper in all the best ways.
But in other ways, it’s turned me inside out and shaken me a bit—sometimes in ways that feel completely disorienting.
This shit feels hard because it IS hard.
Like… old me felt SO strongly about THIS one thing my whole life—but now? New me could not give a rat’s ass about it.
Like, who IS new me, even!? WHERE is she!? How do I FIND new me!? Or old me!? Which version of me am I even looking for!?
It makes me think of that quote from Michelangelo—how he said he saw David in the marble and just carved until he set him free.
That the sculpture was always in there—he just had to chip away everything that wasn’t it.
Motherhood, in a weird way, feels kind of like that to me.
Like “you” have always been in there.
It just slowly (and often painfully) chips away at everything that isn’t truly you—to reveal this evolved, more grounded, even better version of yourself on the other side.
It’s messy! Sometimes you don’t even know what you’re uncovering until it starts to take shape. Sometimes you don’t know what you want until you realize what you don’t.
But I swear, she’s in there—the version of you who feels whole, lit up, grounded, confident. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be right now! You’re figuring it out!
You’re not reinventing her. You’re just shifting, adjusting, shedding the parts of your old life that no longer are going to serve you in this new phase—and finally making space for her to come through.
(Don’t be fooled—I’m very much working on this process. I think it’s a practice—one that’s always evolving.)
So if you’re in the thick of the motherhood fog right now, I can assure you—it gets better. (Also, read THIS POST especially if you’re expecting or postpartum–it will also help immensely!)
I really don’t like the phrase “how to find yourself again” because it implies the essence of what makes you you has been stripped away—it hasn’t.
You are still you—even if it’s hard to see her right now!
If you’re needing a little help centering yourself in your own story again—I hope these tips can help you too.
I will be the first to admit that I, of course, don’t have all the answers. But here’s what’s worked for me along the way–and as always, take what resonates, and leave what doesn’t. ♥️
Let’s jump in!