Wait, why doesn't everyone do their baby registry this way? 👀

How to add real support to your baby registry + a crowdsourced list of your most-loved baby + toddler products

A couple weeks ago, I had the pleasure of attending one of the most LOVELY baby showers for one of my girlfriends. I didn’t even have to change out of my pajamas!

It was a zoom baby shower–with tons of friends and family from every corner of the country tuning in. A short window of time that involved some cute baby trivia and shared advice to the parents to be. Then, later on that night, we had a small friends dinner with the parents to be in person.

HOW FUN! HOW REFRESHING!

It wasn’t traditional, but it was lovely, and a win for everyone. It didn’t require anyone to travel, and was a way to include everyone in the celebration in the way that worked for them. It was low stakes and low stress, AND they got the baby necessities they needed at the same time.

As someone who often gets frustrated with “traditional” ways of approaching things because of the pressure to “do things a certain way” (especially as it pertains to getting married, having a baby, and all the fanfare that comes along with it), I really loved this “non traditional” shower and how they leaned into making the concept of a shower work best for them!

If you’ve been with me in this space for any amount of time, you know how loudly I like to yell about the importance of approaching life (especially motherhood) on YOUR terms, however that’s authentic to you–and very importantly, accepting/hiring help, outsourcing, and being upfront and vocal about what you need at any given time.

There is still a lot of “taboo” around asking for help, and I have forever said that prioritizing spending on something like a postpartum doula, night nurse, babysitter, house manager, etc is in my opinion, more important than spending on a plethora of baby products. (Babies don’t need much stuff–what they need most are parents who are mentally and physically well, so prioritizing spending on THAT is most important.)

When I talk about this, I often get some pushback.

“But how do I ask for money? How do I tactfully communicate that I really don’t want another baby blanket or onesie but I would really like someone to volunteer to watch the baby for a couple hours! Or funds to hire a house cleaner! Asking for that feels tacky!”

Good news: There’s a solution to this–you can put it on your registry (!!!)

Yes–Babylist has this feature, and I think it is SO genius, because they have made asking for help wildly simple (and palatable for parents that may have a hard time asking otherwise!) Note: Babylist is kindly sponsoring this post, thank you Babylist!

When they reached out to work together on a “registry re-do” post and to create a “what I’d register for again” mock registry, I was excited because I knew this would be a really helpful partnership for all the new moms out there, but what I never knew is that they offered SO many ways to customize your registry for what YOU need personally.

You are likely already familiar with Babylist as the go-to for baby registries, because it’s the option that allows you to add ANY item from ANY store (so nice!!) but there are also some very underutilized (in my opinion) features they offer, that I think every new parent should take advantage of.

How to make your registry work harder for you:

• Create Cash Funds: Chefs Kiss this is a literal genius branding move. It’s not “asking for money" it’s, “Contribute to our Doula Fund” or “Night Nurse fund” or “Parent Date Night Fund” and even “Future College Fund.” You can make it whatever you want, and link your Venmo and PayPal accounts directly (!!) so people can send you cash in two seconds. People are excited to contribute to something that will really help make a difference for you, and this makes it feel palatable (and even exciting!) to do so!

• The ability to add Help + Favors on your registry. I love this for so many reasons. First, because it’s wonderful to have an option for those who may not be able to spend on a traditional gift but would love to offer a helping hand or home cooked meal. Second, even if people want to get you a physical item, it also gives them a manual for how they can best show up for you after the baby arrives! (I assure you, they WANT to help!) You can add “help and favors” for:

  • Babysitting (anyone can raise their hand to take a babysitting shift! Whether that’s so you can take a nap, simply enjoy a moment to yourself, or so you can plan a date night–whatever you’re comfortable with!)

  • Second-hand baby clothes (let people know you’d love their hand me downs, and there’s a place for a description so you can be specific about what you’re looking for.)

  • A home-cooked meal (and there’s a description so you can specify what you like!!)

  • House cleaning (volunteer to come take a cleaning/laundry shift!)

  • Dog walking (often overlooked, but if new parents have a dog, it can be stressful for them to coordinate walking them!)

  • “Anything you need” (A nice catch-all that lets parents know you want to help and are open to whatever they need!)

• The ability to mark “open to secondhand” for any product on your registry: It can be a lot to grapple with the well, consumerism, of having a baby. The “stuff” can get overwhelming in a hurry. I love that Babylist offers this option to let people know you’d love any hand-me-downs so you can not only save money but be a little more conscious about your baby registry process!

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What products do you REALLY need?

So, we are all in agreement that asking for help/support (in some form or another) is the most important item on your baby registry–yes? 😆

What about the actual products that you need? What are the lifelines vs. the nice to haves vs. the “you absolutely do not need this thing.”

Below, I’m sharing my own two-cents, as well as the most popular crowdsourced products YOU (the aunties!!!) all loved. (Thanks to all who weighed in on Instagram stories!)

» Click here to find my mock Babylist registry that includes all my recommended baby products and your most popular submissions, too! «

You’ll find my registry includes not just my favorites but YOUR most popular favorites as well. (Make sure to also see the product descriptions on each product for more details!)

You’ll see it’s organized by the following:

• A warm, but honest/forthcoming introduction about what you actually need (that you can copy and paste and customize!)

• Cash + favors

• Jess’ Baby must-haves

• Jess’ Toddler must-haves

• Reader must-haves

• Nursery + decor

• For the parents

As far as the products go, I will say–there were definitely some clear-cut standouts, but there was also a TON of variety across the board.

The main takeaway here is: Everyone is different, and there is no one “best” way to approach your baby registry–just do what works for you!

Let’s jump into some product highlights. (Remember, you can see this list and a whole lot more on the my Babylist Registry!)

#1 most loved product: A great baby carrier

Far and away the #1 item–babywearing for the win! There’s no better way to bond with your baby while simultaneously getting stuff done/getting out in the world. Babywearing lets you have both hands. It lets you enjoy a coffee in a coffee shop, read a book, go for a walk unburdened by a stroller, and then some. Also it was the only thing that saved us during witching hour. 🤯 Baby carriers=FREEDOM!

Personally, our baby carriers were our lifeline–we wore June nearly every day, everywhere, for the first couple years of her life. We hardly even used a stroller for the first several months.

I would recommend starting with an unstructured carrier and a structured carrier, and the sentiment from the aunties echoed this. You will also probably need a few different carriers as they grow. I know this might seem annoying and expensive, but I promise, it’s worth it.

The thing that everyone differed on, however, was their preference on brand!

Solly Wrap: One of the most popular carrier options you all mentioned! There seems to be a shared sentiment that Solly wraps, and the Solly brand specifically, are ideal for newborns. I also really liked my Solly, but used our Babybjorn Mini a lot more during those early months. The Solly will take some practice to master, but there’s a consensus that a wrap is the best wearing option for tiny newborns until they are big enough for a more structured carrier. It’s like a little stretchy cocoon and it seems little babies are happiest in these!

More structured baby carrier: WOW I got so many different answers on your favorite carriers! This will vary widely depending on who you ask. We absolutely loved our BabyBjorn carriers (especially the BabyBjorn jersey Mini, which is for newborns. I love how soft and comfy it is and it is SO easy–completely foolproof and quick–to get on.) BUT there is a lot of debate on favorite carriers, and I think it really boils down to personal preference and lifestyle.

Tula Toddler carrier: Our absolute favorite carrier when June outgrew her baby carriers is the Tula Toddler. She STILL fits in it at age 4!

Other auntie favorite baby carriers mentioned: Artipoppe (far and away most popular), BoppyComfyfit carrier, the Mabe (which gives Artipoppe vibes for less than $150 👀), BobaWrap, Hope and Plum, TushBaby, Sakura Scout carrier, Ergo Embrace, Ergobaby360, Lillebaby. (I also think the WildBird carriers look lovely, but nobody mentioned those by name!)

#2: A stroller that fits all your needs:

Again, this will vary as much as the “best baby carrier”–there is no one size fits all solution for the best stroller!

We started with the Babyjogger City Mini as our everyday stroller and I do love this stroller (and they’ve made even more updates to it since we got ours–a fantastic everyday stroller).

However, we quickly realized we needed something even lighter, more compact, and with a one-handed fold for everyday use in the city. (Note: The NEW City Mini does have a one-handed fold!) Reason being, we lived up multiple flights of stairs with no landing to store a stroller on, so it had to live in our very narrow hallway inside our condo. I needed something I could carry with June in one hand, stroller in the other. We ended up getting the Nuna TRVL to suit our daily needs and we love it and still use it all the time today.

Had we lived in our current house, where we walk a lot, need it to be nimble enough to easily go in and out of stores/restaurants/etc (and where we still have uneven sidewalks) but didn’t really need it to be so light or compact, the City Mini would’ve been all we needed–but the Thule Spring would also be a top contender IMO if you wanted something medium-sized and not compact like a travel stroller.

I will also mention that if you are in the market for a jogging stroller, we love our BOB Wayfinder, too!

Top reader recommendation: Uppababy strollers by a landslide! (Vista or Cruz.) One of the few strollers people mentioned by name, and it was very popular. Again, this comes down to preference. I will explain my choices just in case it’s helpful here:

I specifically did NOT want an Uppababy because I think they are too big for my preferences. When out with my friends who have Uppababy strollers, I find them really hard to maneuver in and out of stores/coffee shops/etc and stressful to navigate busy sidewalks as they take up the entire sidewalk. They are also very heavy and not easy to load in and out of your car, with one hand up and down stairs, etc.

That being said, they are a smooth ride (the wheels are giant so they are great shock absorbers for bumpy sidewalks) and the cargo basket underneath holds a TON of stuff. They also have the option to add on additional seats/several seat configurations/add on features/etc if you plan to have multiple kids close in age. I think for someone who plans to grow their family relatively quickly, this is the other factor that sets the stroller apart.

This just comes down to your personal preferences!

For example, say you’re going on a 10 day Europe trip: are you someone who packs a big ole giant suitcase that you don’t mind lugging, because you like having everything you might need and extra comforts? (If so, you’re probably an UppaBaby Vista/Cruz girlie.)

OR are you someone who prefers to pack in a carry-on because the you feel weighed down/a little anxious schlepping extra stuff? (In that case, you are probably a girlie who wants a more minimal stroller!)

I’m not sure why I think strollers and packing styles are connected, but I feel that they are. 😆

Other stroller mentions: Bugaboo travel stroller (one reader said, “great for city moms”) and Baby Jogger travel stroller.

#3: The right car seat for your needs:

I will die on the Doona hill and so will most of you–this was one of the only car seats mentioned by name in the reader submissions for favorite products and a TON of you mentioned it. (Although it’s more of a stroller/car seat hybrid!) As one of you put it, “It’s so expensive, but the cost per use is sooo low.”

For most people, I don’t think this will fully replace an everyday stroller (I wouldn’t take a Doona for a 3 mile walk, and I walk everywhere) but it’s an absolute godsend for travel, short distances, going to and from the car, a quick walk around the neighborhood, etc. Worth mentioning: it is HEAVY. If you live up 4 flights of stairs and plan to haul it up and down with you, this is not the item for you. (We typically left it in the car like you would a normal car seat–it was not our go-to “everyday” option, if that makes sense.)

Other everyday car seats mentioned: Scarcely any other mention of a car seat as a must-have product: one person mentioned Chicco KeyFit and another the Graco Turn2Me.

Travel car seat: The Cosco scenara for a travel car seat (if you have the Doona you don’t need this until they outgrow the Doona) but this car seat is so light, buckles with just a seatbelt, is back/forward facing.

Toddler car seat: I rarely see people put second year car seats on their registry but it could be a good idea if you have an idea of what you’ll want or have time to do the research– because they are EXPENSIVE. (FYI, babies grow out of their first car seats around 12-18 months).

We ended up going with the Nuna Exec for our everyday car seat after she outgrew the Doona and have been very happy with it, and she’s still in it! Close second for me was the Britax. I know the Nuna Rava is also very popular, as are Graco car seats–interestingly though, nobody mentioned their car seat by name outside of the Doona. (So clearly there isn’t a strong “best” car seat to get!)

#4: The Baby Brezza is KING

If I had a nickel for every person that said, “Baby Brezza saved my life” I might be rich. And I agree! Easily one of the most used things that first year as we exclusively formula fed. (More on that here!)

You may not want to get this (at least right away) if you plan to breastfeed or pump all or most of the time, but if you know you’ll be doing a lot of formula, this was a life-saver. (Also, if those plans change, don’t worry–you can always buy one later!)

They’ve since come out with a mini version too which is great for smaller spaces (or for having a secondary one upstairs in the nursery if you have multiple floors!) If we have a second child, I will absolutely be purchasing a mini one to have upstairs so I am not constantly having to go up and down stairs to make bottles.

Honorable mention: Worth noting, Baby Brezza has since come out with a BOTTLE WASHER AND DRYER since we had June (what a magical contraption!) It was recommended by SO many of you! (A couple of you mentioned the MomCozy one as well!) As one reader said, “IDK how people live without bottle washers/sterilizers, dryers!” 😂

#5: Somewhere to put the baby down/entertain them:

As someone who did not want a permanent baby fixture in her living room–the Lovevery Play gym was worth it, I promise. We used this every day, multiple times a day, until she started crawling. It kept her entertained, was great for development, tummy time, etc. One reader said about the Lovevery play gym, “I can’t believe I didn’t think I needed this!!”

Another very popular submission was the Fisher Price piano mat–while not exactly apples to apples to the Lovevery play gym, it’s similar and less expensive!

Also, I think there were HUNDREDS of people who raved about the Babybjorn Bouncer Seat. But…we actually didn’t use it that much? I don’t understand the hype. 😆 So again, everyone is different!

Bottom line is I would say you really just need a spot (or maybe one baby bouncer, one mat, for variety) where you can put baby for them to be entertained while you can do other things.

#6: Newborn clothes/jammies/swaddles with specific features:

Whatever you do, nothing that requires snapping down the front!!! There isn’t a right or wrong brand out there, but I loved Kyte hippies + Goumi and LouLou gowns for the newborn stage. You want to look for:

• Zippered footies with DOUBLE zippers (so you don’t have to unzip them fully and make them cold to change their diapers!) OR

• Gowns that don’t have legs/feet but open/close with a tie, fold, etc.

• Ideally must have sleeves with foldover mittens (because they scratch themselves SO easily, and I always found most “mittens” to be gigantic and way too big, but the onesies with the foldover hands are so nice!)

• Many of you love Magnetic Me jammies but I actually didn’t love them–they just didn’t ever fit her properly and were cut too short and too boxy for her. Like adults, certain brands fit certain babies better than others!

• Swaddles + sleep sacks: I feel like the right swaddle also varies widely based on you and your baby’s preference, but our favorite was the Ollie, and others mentionedLoveToDream, Halo, Woolino sleep sack, SwaddleMe, and Merlin suits.

#7: Baby monitor

I really loved the Owlet sock and monitor and while I will emphasize this is not remotely necessary, it DID give me a ton of peace of mind. (Although I think maybe for some people it might increase your anxiety, so use your best judgement!)

My biggest cause of anxiety was whether or not she was breathing, and knowing that an alarm would go off if she for some reason, stopped, is the only thing that allowed me to fall asleep. 😆

Worth noting, only a couple others mentioned Owlet in the reader submissions, but a TON of people named the Nanit monitor as one of their favorites–and it’s similar in that it does also track their breathing. (Maybe Nanit has made more advances than the Owlet in the past four years and that’s why it seems to be more popular? I’m not sure.) Another mom mentioned loving her Hello Baby monitor and a classic ole Motorola monitor was also mentioned. This is one of those things where you absolutely do not NEED anything fancy, but depending on you personally, it might be a wonderful “nice to have.”

#8: On the go sleeping essentials:

Slumberpod: It’s basically a portable black out tent that you can pop over your pack n play. Creates a perfect black out environment for baby. An absolute MUST for travel, especially if you are sharing a room (because babies and toddlers don’t like to go to sleep if they can see their parents hanging out in the room, or will often wake up in the night and want to play if they see you sleeping right there 😆). I messed around with the cheaper blackout covers on Amazon first and they were fine for the newborn days, but you will eventually want the real deal, so just register for it now!!

Pack n Play: One of my biggest regrets is not getting the Guava pack n play. (Although the Babybjorn one would be my close second choice).

We have one of the standard Graco pack n plays and they are totally fine as a spare to keep at Grandmas, etc, as they are affordable and get the job done, but they are an absolute bear to haul around (so heavy), clunky to set up and break down (I am constantly fighting with the stupid side rails).

In contrast, the Guava is lightweight, easy set up, I love that it opens at the side, opens at the side, and has a backpack carry for easy schlepping! Another added perk is that it comes with a bassinet.

Portable white noise machine: There are lots of good options here–I don’t think the brand matters so much as just having one! (Actually, register for at LEAST two, so you have a spare! You don’t want to be caught without one!)

Inflatable toddler bed: While you’re at it, why not add a toddler bed to the registry for when they outgrow the pack n play? The slumber pod also fits over the top! (We have and like the Hiccapop!)

Travel monitor: We’ve had a Vtech long-range monitor since June was a baby it’s really great. (They make versions with video monitor too, but we just have the audio one!)

#9: Nursery Essentials:

Crib/Bassinet: I didn’t want to spend on the crib so I could spend elsewhere (i.e. her MegMade vintage dresser) so we went with the IKEA crib and have no qualms! It converts into a toddler bed too. I also had and adored the Design Dua bassinet but I wouldn’t say it was particularly functional if you’re looking for bells and whistles. (It’s nice that you can move the basket around the house though to set baby down!)

Other honorary mentions: the Snoo (many differing opinions on this one, people either said it was a lifeline or totally unnecessary!) and the Halo Bassinest was recommended by a few people! Mockingbird bassinet and stand also mentioned. Also, a couple people really love their Nestig crib!

Nice Dresser: You know I’m a vintage girly, so of course I got her dresser from MegMade. You can customize the paint color and the hardware and it will be an heirloom piece they have forever! This would be a really nice group gift or a gift for a parent or grandmother who wanted to gift a “big” present.

Nice blackout curtains: For whatever reason I never see these on registries, but they should be! Why not!? A blackout environment is recommended for best sleep, and I love ours from West Elm.

Hatch Light: Seemingly small and not a big deal but it was also one of the most popular submissions and I agree with how functional it is. It has a lot more features that set it apart: A white noise machine AND a night light, functions as an “OK to Wake” light when they get older (which we use now) and most importantly, you can adjust it from your phone. There were lots of times I forgot to turn it on and if I had gone back into the room to turn it on, it would’ve upset her or risked waking her up, but being able to adjust it remotely was key. Also, now, sometimes we adjust the clock back on the fly if we want to get a few more minutes of sleep. 😆 Don’t judge me until you get there, okay!? I swear you’ll want the ability to control it from your phone!

Anyway, bottom line, yes, it’s worth spending for the Hatch.

#10: High Chair:

First, this is something nice to put on a registry so you don’t have to buy it, but otherwise, let me reiterate, you don’t NEED a high chair for MANY months.

Personally, we had and loved our Ingelsina (the one that just clamps onto your counter) because we always ate at our bar and didn’t have a ton of room for a high chair anyway. My only gripe is that it doesn't have a footrest (feeding specialists emphasize the importance of this for ergonomic reasons). Lalo has since come out with their own version that DOES have a footrest and also comes with the tray (Ingelsina makes you buy this separately). If I had to do it over, I’d recommend going with the Lalo for these reasons.

Auntie favorite: Far and away the #1 reader recommendation was the Stokke Tripp Trapp. (Multiple people said get the newborn insert for it too, which just functions as a safe place to put baby down.) In fact, other than the Ingelsina which was mentioned a few times, every other high chair mention was the Stokke Tripp Trapp and it was mentioned a TON. 🤯 People LOVE this and especially that it grows with them for years.

#12: Breastfeeding essentials:

This is obviously a big part of a registry for those who choose to breastfeed! For that reason I wanted to call out the category here but honestly, hardly anyone mentioned any breastfeeding related things as a “must have” product at all! I think this just goes to show that pumps and other essentials are very personal, and going with one product vs. another is not a make or break thing.

As I didn’t breastfeed I can’t comment on this personally, but one person (out of hundreds! I was shocked!) mentioned their pump in their list of favorite products (the Eufy) and a couple mentioned hand pumps (brand not specified), as well as the Hakkaa ladybug + Boon trove milk collectors. Also, Silverettes were mentioned a couple times!

One person also mentioned Karrie Lochner’s newborn + breastfeeding course, so that would be a great thing to add to your registry too!

#13: Other little random things that are actually very helpful:

A snot sucker, a LOT of muslin burp cloths, a tap light for nighttime changes/feeds (different than the hatch), and a Bum Brush (that little spatula you can use to apply diaper cream so your fingers don’t get all gross) and a WIPEABLE (important) changing table.

#14: Don’t forget PARENTS:

I love that you can put a wishlist for PARENTS on your Babylist registry, too!

Please know that your friends and family WANT to buy FUN things for you–they would much rather buy you something that will bring you joy than a bunch of boring bottles or a snot sucker. 😆

Readers mentioned…

• A nice bathrobe (must have pockets!)

• Audible credits so you can listen to audiobooks during late night feedings/walks. (How amazing is this idea?)

• Nursing friendly pajamas.

• A functional cute dress that will make you feel great postpartum. (Also bonus if it has pockets!!) Okay I added this one. 😎

• Kim Crawford Sauv Blanc. (My personal favorite submission!!)

• Hospital photo shoot or family photoshoot fund! (Again, I love that you can make your own “cash funds” on Babylist and people can contribute to it! Also, of course I have to plug Jess here–hire Our Days Photo and Film to do it! 🥰)

• A Peaceful Littles gift card!! Michele is a pediatric sleep specialist I’ve worked with on and off since June was born. She’s PHENOMENAL and works with you one on one to tailor sleep solutions to YOU and whatever you are comfortable with. She’s worth her weight in gold and I highly recommend putting a gift card for her on your registry! I get DMs all the time raving about her and thanking me for passing along her recco!

So go ahead, add things you would love, are important to you, or that would make you feel special, but you might not buy for yourself! (You can buy the snot sucker with your gift card money or cash fund! 😆)

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Other things we did not personally need/use/weren’t necessary:

Worth noting, some things we deem unnecessary were other people’s lifelines. Just because we didn’t use them doesn’t mean you won’t–but, I always get asked. So here it goes:

• A bottle warmer or wipes warmer. (June never minded room temp water for her formula, and I have not ever understood the point of a wipes warmer. I am not running a spa.😆) I am of the opinion of not getting them used to the fancy things unless necessary because there will be times where you do not have access to warm water or warm wipes. Of course, there are some babies who refuse anything other than warm milk, and that’s totally fine–you gotta do what you gotta do, but I like to take a minimal approach first.

• Fancy diapers: People really love Coterie, but diapers are so wildly expensive, and that doesn’t even include the fancy ones–our go-to brand was Huggies and they worked just fine. Just in case you need to cut costs somewhere and need someone to bring you down to earth on this topic. 😂

• A baby swing: We just didn’t have room for much “stuff” and I never missed it. (They are also not sleep safety approved, just FYI–they aren’t meant for sleeping!) I know people who feel differently, but I preferred a less is more approach to baby stuff and figured if we ended up needing something later, we could buy it later. Luckily, we never needed it!

• Baby walker: Same notion with the extra gear. I didn’t find this necessary and we didn’t have anywhere to put it.

• Baby bath: I have always thought it was a massive pain to strain to lean into a giant bathtub to bathe a tiny baby in a little bath seat, so we always bathed her in the kitchen sink until she was significantly older. At first I used one of those little bath inserts, but my mom told me she used to just put a tiny bit of water in the sink, lay a washcloth down at the bottom of the sink, and lay me on top of it. (With another warm washcloth on top.) We tried it with June, and she actually LOVED it. (She didn’t get so cold that way, and she liked the sensation of being in the water vs. just the water being poured over her). So I think we used the bath insert maybe twice? Might not be necessary if you have a big enough kitchen sink!

• We had a Hatch changing pad that would tell you their weight which was totally unnecessary. The only requirement is that your changing table is WIPEABLE. (The Keekaroo was one of the most popular mentions and people also like the Peanut one!)

• The BabyBjorn bouncer seat: DON’T COME FOR ME I will also caveat that this was the #1 MOST RECOMMENDED PRODUCT BY YOU ALL (and lots of people were like “the brand matters”!!) but we didn’t really use it that much and I don’t really get why it’s so great or why a cheap bouncer isn’t as good!? 😆

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Whew! We made it to the end! If you thought this was helpful–hooray! Remember, the above is just a highlight–there’s so much more on the registry here–but if you take nothing else away from this post, I hope it’s this:

There is no “right” way to build a registry. There is only your way.

You don’t need everything. You don’t need to do it perfectly. You don’t need it all right away. You don’t need to make it aesthetic or impressive or trend-forward. You just need to be honest about what will actually support you and your family.

Asking for what you need is NOT tacky–being specific about wanting money, meals, babysitting, secondhand gear, is practical, and you’re doing everyone a favor.

People who love you WANT to show up for you, and they want direction on how to do it best.

You’ve got this. ♥️ (And CONGRATULATIONS! I’m so excited for what’s ahead for you!)

xoxo

Jess

Thank you so much to Babylist for sponsoring this post. All opinions are 100% my own!

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